Dealing with Difficult People? Practical Wisdom on How to Deal.
As I learned from my time on the other side with The Council, this earthly existence is hell. Part of choosing to incarnate into a body and live on earth means learning to cope with miserable, unhappy, and rude people. I came across this article from J. Elizabeth Young and thought I’d share. Visit Tiny Buddha to read the whole thing, but here is a sample:
We all have encounters with people who prefer to stay miserable, making everything difficult. They exist, and perhaps there was a time in your past when you once where one of those negative people. Perhaps you still can be at times.
As a former miserable person I know it was my inability to handle my mental and emotional states that kept me oozing all over others. I felt so disconnected from life, living obsessively in my mind, that I truly felt helpless.
Most often that helplessness manifested into continuous critiquing, judging, anger, and sometimes even pure rage. I was unwilling to take full responsibility for my relationship to life. I wanted peace, joy, and harmony, but I was unwilling to do the necessary work to experience them.
Difficult people are demanding. They demand something from the external world in hopes of filling the disconnection and restlessness they feel within. Whether they are demanding our attention, a certain action or reaction, or a particular outcome, the root of their behavior is a demand for something other than what is.
Difficult people haven’t yet learned to take responsibility for their whole selves—mind, body, and spirit. Feeling disconnected and restless gives rise to their need to argue, judge, critique, and tweak everyone around them.
Their inability to handle themselves adds fuel to the fire, which perpetuates their harshness.
Underneath their personality is a feeling of being separate and a desperate plea for help. We can’t change another and we can’t make someone want to change. The only way we can help is by being true to our self, finding our power within, and being an example of wholeness.
Posted on June 10, 2014, in Life in Hell and tagged dealing with difficult people, hell, J. Elizabeth Young, knowledge, life, negativity, positivity, Steps To Salvation, Tiny Buddha, wisdom. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.